A man has taken to an advice blog, after finding out that his wife of several years plans to raise any children they have to be genderless, and homosexual. The man says his wife was influenced by several homosexual friends, and her new “woke” ideas about child rearing are not rubbing him the right way.
We are planning to have our first child in about a year. My wife is very much into raising them genderless (or “post-gender” style) while my take on it is that we should raise them in a non-stereotypical manner, keeping an open mind for all there is. I even have problems defining how raising a child “genderless” should look.
However, my wife has many homosexual friends (men and women alike) and really wants at least one of our kids to also be homosexual, which is the real issue.
We live in a modern city and I really don’t have any problems with our kids becoming homosexual, but not on purpose! I mean, if we somehow force it, it could go horribly wrong (effects on psyche etc.).
How can I deal with this situation? Is my wife overreacting or am I wrong here? How can I approach that topic with my wife?
It seems to me that this is some kind of extreme take on raising a child genderless (by essentially willingly flipping its sexuality around)…
Many users responded to his plight, suggesting counseling for his wife. Still others have advised him to not have any children with her until she begins to see reason. To bring children into a marriage where two parents try to force their child’s sexuality would end in disaster, according to most users.
Many responders on StackExchange told him and his wife to seek counseling. “I would strongly suggest some couple therapy before you bring a child into this situation,” replied MSJ99x “I worked in a therapy clinic and saw the outcome of overbearing/unreasonable mothering (and fathering). Your wife needs to confront her own issues before she tries re-wiring a child to fit her agenda.”
Another user named “anongoodnurse” wrote: “If your wife truly wants a homosexual child, that’s different, to say the least. It doesn’t seem to be loving the child for who they are. It’s akin to always wanting a daughter, and, having only sons, trying to raise one as a daughter.”
The post was roundly mocked on social media.
“Takeaway: Careful who you marry,” tweeted @TheSafestSpace, highlighting the absurdity of the post.
“You picked the wrong wife, dude,” echoed Shireen Qudosi.