Sheila Miyoshi Jager, 53, the woman ex-President Barack Hussein Obama dated and proposed to twice before he met Michelle has been giving out exclusives to the media into their relationship.
One of her claims is that she and Obama carried on a secret relationship a year into his relationship with Michelle. Jager is of Dutch and Japanese decent – something she says the ex-president always didn’t like about her.
Jager told journalists that Obama became “so very ambitious very suddenly… I remember very clearly when this transformation happened, and I remember very specifically that by 1987, about a year into our relationship, he already had his sights on becoming president.”
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But Obama believed he needed to ‘fully identify as African American’ to fulfill his political ambitions – and believed that having a non-black spouse could damage his prospects, according to the book.
This reportedly put pressure on Obama’s relationship with Jager who is of Dutch and Japanese heritage.
By the time he was getting set to leave for Harvard Law School, their relationship was rocky.
But Obama was not ready to give up on Jager, and proposed to her for a second time – asking her to join him in Harvard.
Again Jager turned him down.
She believed that his proposal was ‘out of a sense of desperation over our eventual parting and not in any real faith in our future.’
According to Garrow, Obama made emotional judgments on political grounds. A close mutual friend of the couple recalls Obama being concerned about running for president with a white wife.
Friends recall a summer weekend trip to Madison, Wisconsin around this time when there was ‘unusual tension’ between the couple.
Related one of their friends: ‘it’s the summer…these houses are old. You’d die if you closed the windows.
‘They went back and forth, having sex, screaming yelling, having sex, screaming yelling.’
Sheila could be heard yelling: ‘That’s wrong! That’s wrong! That’s not a reason.’
Obama cared for her, Garrow writes, ‘yet he felt trapped between the woman he loved and the destiny he knew was his.’
‘Barack’s political destiny meant that he and Sheila could not have a long-tern future together, no matter how deeply they loved each other.’
But she refused to accept his rationale, writes the author, the fact that it was ultimately her race that would prevent them from being together.
In the days before Barack left Chiacgo for Harvard the couple joined friends Jerry and Kellman for a farewell dinner. They had a question for their friends.
‘Could you please keep the cat?,’ they asked.
The Kellmans agreed to give Max a home, Sheila explaining to the author, ‘Barack was not sad to give Max away.’